here’s a reason therapy doesn’t work for men.
Therapy is not enough. It falls short of addressing the real experience of men. While there is truth to the idea that we should get in touch with our feelings, we are not satisfied to merely sit and cry about our lives. We want to identify problems, set goals and learn skills so that we may live with more energy, more mastery, and more love. We want brotherhood. And the therapy of today provides little of this.
It is not an exaggeration to say you could be ten times more excited about your life.
Ten times more excited about your relationships.
Ten times more excited about your role in the world.
At times, each of us are confronted with the painful truth that we aren’t everything we could be. We don’t have that stoke for life. We know we could be more productive, more happy, more healthy, less distracted, less reactive, less frustrated, and in deeper connection with our purpose. Our life may not be in shambles, but it could certainly be a whole lot better. We want to feel in love with the world, lit up, turned on and stoked as fuck.
If this is you, you don’t need a therapist. You need a spiritual hype man. You need a brother in virtue.
You need a philosophical coach.
My name is Ari, and I’ve worked hard as fuck to keep my fire lit. At times, I’ve worked even harder to light it up again after I’ve lost it. I am a master of courage in the physical realm: I’ve been rock climbing, mountain biking, base jumping, adventure racing, and paragliding for years. I’ve taken the courage of leaping off a cliff, soaring hundreds of feet in the air, pushing my body to the edge and I’ve applied it to my life. In my philosophical coaching practice I help other men find that courage to look deeply into their own experiences and relationships and bring about radical positive change.
I call it ‘encouragement’: the reciprocal relationship of effecting courage in each other.
As your coach, and as a member of a larger brotherhood, we can leap off the cliff together and bring courage into each other’s lives.
The people who I work best with are smart and courageous. They’re smart enough to withstand the rigor of asking deep questions about their thinking and their lives. (This isn’t therapy – it’s more intellectually challenging than that.) They’re also courageous enough to look at themselves unflinchingly, and to face what they see.
This isn’t “Life Coaching” with some supplement-pumped jock who shames you into that “Rise and Grind” bullshit.
You don’t need a doctor or a therapist!
This is not a fucking medical issue. It is cultural, tribal, and technical.
You need tools, accountability and community!
You need mastery, wisdom and virtue
You need a digital gang of men who listen to you, who endeavor to understand you, who have your back, who will be your teammate in this high stakes, life-or-death game we call existence.
So if you are a man who wants to:
- Grow the fuck up
- Take on more responsibility
- Be more productive
- Radically improve your relationships
- Get clarity on your purpose
- Earn your own respect
- Increase your capacity for empathy and connection